Persecución
El sábado a las 2 de la madrugada salí de cenar con unas amigas y regresé a mi casa manejando sola. De repente un tipo se me emparejó en un semáforo y me empezó a pitar y a gritar “¡Ey, hola, hey!”. Yo fingí no verlo ni oírlo y seguí con mi camino, pero en cada semáforo se emparejaba y me seguía gritando “¡Ey, voltea!”. Volteé a verlo y le hice cara de “¿Qué quieres idiota?” y me contestó “¡Baja tu vidrio!”. Le contesté “No molestes”. No se veía borracho sino como en coca o speed, seguro andaba en algo. Bajé la velocidad y esperé a que se alejara pero volvió a emparejarse a mi coche y a gritarme “¡Qué onda!”. Entonces le dije “¡Vas a ver!” y tomé mi celular, simulé marcar el 060 y pedir auxilio. En realidad no marqué a ningún número, sentí que no servía de nada porque no había una sola patrulla en todo el trayecto de la persecución.
El individuo siguió persiguiéndome y gritándome, yo me mantenía tranquila para evitar perder el control y chocar. Determiné no irme a mi casa para evitar que el tipejo me interceptara ahí y decidí dirigirme a la Delegación para pedir auxilio. El tipo seguía persiguiéndome y gritando, yo aceleré más y él también, venía casi totalmente pegado a mi carro. Llegamos a la división entre la autopista libre a Toluca y la Puerta Santa Fe. Ahí se me cerró y me tuve que frenar, quería obligarme a escucharlo y me gritaba “¡Ey, baja tu vidrio nomás tantito!”. Yo por nada hubiera accedido a caer en su trampa, pero tampoco quise hacerle una seña obscena ni gritarle para no fomentar su ira.
Para cerrarme más el paso, el tipo tontamente se encaminaba hacia la autopista, lo que aproveché inmediatamente para dar un volantazo y subirme de prisa hacia Santa Fe. Él ya no pudo perseguirme porque venían carros a toda prisa detrás, cosa que lo hizo enfurecer y mentarme la madre con el claxon.
Afortunadamente no pasó del susto, pero llegué a la casa alterada y tuve mucho coraje. No podía dejar de sentir tal impotencia y quería matar a ese mamarracho que tal vez acostumbra perseguir violentamente mujeres en el auto, porque no nos engañemos, eso fue violencia.
Decidí no volver a salir sola de noche, pero no siempre es posible que alguien nos acompañe a todas las mujeres. ¿Cómo pasar al súper saliendo del trabajo sin sentirme insegura? ¿O acaso las mujeres debemos dejar de hacer cosas de noche para siempre? ¿O debemos someternos a recogernos el pelo, ponernos gorra, quitarnos aretes y despintarnos la boca para no llamar la atención en el coche? ¿O llamarle al novio para decirle que nos está persiguiendo un imbécil y ponerlo a temblar sin que él pueda ayudarnos en nada?
Mis amigos a quienes les conté lo sucedido me aconsejan que en cualquier situación similar haga lo siguiente: Uno, si el tipo no permite huir de él y se baja de su coche para acercarse al mío, con la pena pero debo acelerar y atropellarlo, mi vida es más valiosa que nada. Dos, siempre llamar a la policía desde el celular y darle las placas del agresor. Tres, tomar rutas donde sabemos que habrá patrullas y casetas de vigilancia. Cuatro, si nos siguen, hacen señas, amenazan o nos chocan, jamás detenernos y tratar de perderse en el tránsito. Cinco, lo mejor es que nuestro coche tenga película antiasalto oscura que evite que nos vean solas. Y seis, leer los consejos de cómo prevenir ser secuestrada.
Publicado el 16-04-2008 - 15:30
La historia de la chica a quien la perseguia un chavo me parece increiblemente espantosa, digo afortunadamente no paso anda pero creo que debe de tener mucho cuidado, ese tipo de hombres de verdad no deberia de exisitir, son el cancer de todo. Ojala que esto sirva de lección a todas aquellas mujeres que alguna vez se han visto en una bronca similar..porque el estar tranquila te ayudo a mantenerte en criterio de hacer las cosas bien…pero yo si hubiera llamado a la policia si mas para que lo agarraran y lo metieran al bote por baboso y acosador.
adios amigas y espero que esten bien. bye
Publicado el 14-04-2008 - 14:42
hola, soy aficionada a los problemas más comunes que existen para nosotras como mujeres, agradezco su experiencia porque me da una idea de como actuar en una situación similar, al mismo tiempo felicitarla por el valor y coraje que tuvo para maejar la situación.
Gracias por sus consejos y espero ponerlos en práctica cuando me sean necesarios, cuidese mucho.
Publicado el 21-02-2008 - 14:33
Febrero 21, 2008, from Deborah Engel
Hola, Me llamo Deborah, vivo en los Angeles, California. No escribo bien Espanol, pero les mando la historia de mi primer amor en Ingles, espero me entiendan sin problema. Me case a los 14 y nunca me enamore hasta los 47, cuando por primer vez me enamore y es muy hermoso lo que siento. El tambien dice que me ama, y es muy lindo y carinoso conmigo siempre que estamos juntos. Pero detras de el bino muchos problemas. Sus hijos son adultos pero aun muy necesitados de papi y su mama conquien El no vive desde la edad de 14 anoz es muy controladora y manipuladora y uno de 3 de sus hermanos, es un alcolico que aun cuando tiene mujer y 3 hijas menores de edad, siempre esta jalando a mi novio por telefono, manipulandolo con ppalabras deciendo, Ya no me quieres carnal, asi El se va a cantinas donde los dos pasan mucho tiempo en relajos con mujeres faciles. Absolutamente todo eso esta danando nuestra relasion. Es todo una novela.
Deborah, Octaviano and Alcohol:
This is neither about or against, but for others benefit. No one can improve circumstances without complete and accurate information and if wishing to change a negative ongoing situation, one has to just put an end to it or never complaint. Knowledge is Power. Therefore, prior to divulging any knowledge, one needs to Get answers by doing personal investigative work. I hope this serves to help find creativity to put to good use in stopping a negative behavior that has caused a lot of discomfort. By the time others read this, I may be removed from the equation and although it might be a source for celebration to some, let’s not forget that history repeats itself and so ‘The Saga’ will most likely continue. I may be wrong, but based on what I know and understand of Marines, a Marine should possess certain character references taught to them and should recognize the simple language being used here that can only point to me as a person with strong character and sense of pride, who practices a code of ethics in good moral conduct and Marines should be equally vested in having and enjoying PEACE as I am and perhaps aware of an undertow, that it’s free flowing negative current disturbs the peace that can rarely be found and preventing peace from prevailing. Accepting truth is hard, but a most in solving dilemma causing issues, So before judging me consider the facts; there have already been several victims (too many) of a tragic-cruel, mal-intentioned and depressing game. A delicate balance is needed for life to function smoothly. Requiring acknowledging that there is definitely a RIGHT and WRONG way for doing things to achieve peace and tranquility. To say that bad behavior is OK only helps continuing a destructive pattern and unhappiness and that cannot be considered love by any stretch of the imagination. Yet, sometimes people walk about as though thinking they have a God given right to use and ultimately hurt others but without consequences. Walking into someone’s clinically organized happy world, create chaos and pain, to then walk away. Is a conduct that is neither honorable or worthy of encouragement, and for some is simply a matter of not knowing a difference between right and wrong, but worsening when others encourage Bad behavior. Octaviano’s manner of avoiding facing any truth or answering questions, simply by reacting defensively and we never have normal conversations without denial that leads to outburst of aggression. But regardless of how self-absorbed or self-indulgent, most people acknowledge that * Alcohol consumption distorts brain function and damages ones health, Bars are counter productive and not conducive to having a good relationship, plus Loyalty is a most to preserving a healthy - happy partnerships People surrounding us have to been supportive and encourage even a small effort to conduct ourselves with dignity and self respect. No one has a right to interfere in a couple’s relationship. But believe it or not, some of Octaviano’s family members (excluding his sons) enable his conduct and path to self destruction. One example: Freeloading, alcoholic brother Jesus has been instrumental in the difficulties Octaviano’s has encountered while trying to improve his life. Others are mentioned throughout this letter because they are aware, but have personal interest, therefore support the behavior. I am openly discussing them in connection with ‘true facts’ that although none have dare speak of, consciously or unconsciously do enable a negative situation that first ruined Octaviano’s marriage and in a round about way continues hurting his sons and has absolutely hurt my relationship with him. Everyone does best by having two sides of a story, to more accurately understand what has occur and I absolutely have a right to tell my side of the story. Make no assumptions or think I don’t have good cause for feeling indignation. Although I do not know Octaviano’s sons, I’m almost positive they too have fallen unwilling victims of a preexisting and ongoing situation and a legitimate question would then be… When is enough, enough? This is not about me having any doubt of him loving me. As he so many times declared before others to have been in need of a woman like me and to have never before me loved another with the same intensity and I absolutely believe him. People can pretend to live on another planet. Just think of it as acting. Anyone can fake emotions like disappointment, anger, sadness, excitement and passion. But, no one can fake the love one suddenly sees in another persons eyes, and more difficult is trying to give that feeling. Remember that few actors coming together when chemistry can be felt through the screen. One has to have experienced what I am talking about to understand. I cannot put it into words. He definitely positively loves me, I have no doubt, I am sure! But we have never been blessed with the opportunity for peace over the many dilemmas surrounding him and the persons who for personal gain ill advice him. One example: Keeping a house that serves to perpetuate a negative situation. Is counter productive! One has to look at Octaviano’s own parents situation to see that it is not a happy - happy, joy - joy outcome for at least 2 or more people. Let’s not ignore that Octaviano’s sons have not grown experiencing how adults resolve grievances, but the opposite. If ever find themselves in a situation where they feel no lo love or comfort, they have not had an appropriate example to follow as to how to END things. More than likely they will end up feeling guilty and remain in a bad situation - over watching their parents not resolving a problem. A legitimate question would then be forced. What kind of man would dismiss his life and love possibilities over consistently avoiding resolving problems? Instead, becoming cowardly and rather gives in, to avoid facing a usual song and dance. (Is equal to saying lets die a slow painful death and take everyone with us.) It’s unhealthy! I fell deeply and sincerely in love with Octaviano, treading him like a king, spoiling the hell out of him, affording him (by whatever means necessary) the feeling of comfort. While also giving him my trust and support. I suppose I am speaking of a bond between two (a couple) that should include loyalty and respect, and more importantly SOLIDARITY. Acting with common sense would have brought the most happiness, but He failed miserably to understand that I’m comfortable with simple pleasures. The bar scene does not qualify for creating a peaceful kind of life. Additionally, I do far better than he focusing on long-term goals and better yet, I adhere to plans made. My attraction to him lead me astray as I got distracted from my previous goals. It was a tricky territory as he offered the possibility of my heart’s desire. Yet the harder we strive for it, the more distant I became due to discovering uncomfortable truths about the man I love. Frustration prevail while trying to get our needs met, in an irritating set of circumstances that would enable us to be aggressive, rather than seek satisfaction out of our day. Instead of a conventional approach, he always strives for immediate gratification and falls into the temptation of easiness, shortcuts and strategies that never pay off. Letting go of control would have helped take the edge off the tension, but he pushed far beyond his safe boundaries with impulsive behavior. I then opted to slow down and take my time, which resulted in feelings of insecurity within him and worse for me over watching him act out at bars and around other women. I am certain this is a long standing manner of handling problems and behavior for him. Additionally, while attempting to justify his actions Octaviano has spun his wheels and dishes out excuses that transform into irrational arguments only accomplishing further mental stress. His typical response for why he has difficulties in relationships, has been a description of women as crazy, as he blames females regardless of circumstances. How great are the adds for a man to consistently run into “crazy women.” Let’s not ignore that adds should increase when referring to a happy, well adjusted and well trained person who had no real expectation of ever embarking on a silly - but hurtful game. Not all people are necessarily happy or well adjusted, but in my case it happens to be true and none of the issues affecting our relationship surfaced from my side but his. I’ve heard every excuse under the sun as to why he has acted out so badly over many years. I’m sure his estrange wife recognizes the Hell being described here within. Including unbelievable tails from both sides of their relationship of escapades, giving way to reason in a behavior; as I’m sure more excuses will follow. However, I have done neither of the things mentioned when referring to females in his life. I have neither abandoned him or have I gone out with or preferring the company of others over his and I never cheated or lied to him. Additionally, logic rules my life and whatever his excuse this time, I’ve done nothing but spoil and love and deeply cared for him and silly as it may sound, I trusted him with my heart that was intact. I sincerely hope people put brain power behind their decisions and to make no mistake or assume anything, for there are far too many signs for anyone to ignore. Whenever Octaviano runs out of options, He proclaims to no longer want to hurt his sons, but sadly, it includes hurting other people and if he truly wishes to stop, Que no sea mala gente. He needs to speak truthfully. Stop lying so much. I absolutely do love him! I ache from missing him so much, but He thought that over being in love, I would tolerate disrespect and would become ignorant and unable to see what is in front of me. Furthermore, I believe I deserve a real serious mate. One who knows the meaning of love and loyalty and practices with one partner. He has consistently made empty promises which he never keeps and while telling me how much he loves and adore me, he causes a great deal of pain for me over women and bars. One short — fat woman in particular, helped to create a lot of problems between us, but for her own personal interest He has always claimed that it is she who approaches him, as if he is mesmerized and unable to move out of her way. He says he cares nothing for her or any other woman and that he only goes to the bar to talk with males, not females. He just thinks others will never know what he is really doing, forgetting that women always End up talking to each other regardless. Plus, I repeatedly heard him say to his sons that everything is OK every time they called and it seemed to me the conversations are superficial and I think they need to know the other side of a coin to better deal with the situation forced on them and once they know, they can perhaps breath comfortably or try to change a course of action. Octaviano created a negative spiral that escalated on August 9 2007 and beginning Sunday, January 30th and for two consecutive Sundays, starting January 19, worsen, culminating on Sunday, February 17 over what he did for several weekends, Example: On Saturday, Jan. 12, He had called me talking about having left his truck the previous night, at the parking lot of the bar he frequents, over being weary, due to someone getting arrested for DUI. He then promised he would never go there again, while trying to convince me of how much he needs me. Conveniently forgetting to mention that on Friday, Jan. 4 and 11, He was once again trying to get near the woman that had been a constant battle in previous episodes since August 9, when I first found him with her, over needing to see for myself to avoid lies and gossip things have deteriorated. On Friday, January 11, I drove to see if he was parked at the house and there were no vehicles parked there at 11:00 PM. I returned at 3:00 am and suddenly there was a vehicle parked almost against the garage wall which was not the neighbors or his daughters. I had received a call that evening letting me know that he was once again at the bar dancing with the short fat one and I wanted to see for myself. He was with her! He tried to convince me that he was dropped off near the house, to later having to walk to North Broadway to pick up the truck. Although I already had the info, I did not call his bluff. I rather let people stick their own feet in their mouth. I also did not mention the additional vehicle in the drive way, because had he not known whose vehicle it was he would have complained or mentioned some strangers vehicle there. He did not! And it was not some stranger, but the fat woman sleeping in the garage with him. A thing I refused doing. The only thing I could say to Octaviano was to remind him that he loves to be kissed, but then, Unless speaking of an equally disgusting female, most women feel disgusted of men that cheat and so women refuse to kiss them.” Another Reason for arguments on Jan. 19th and 27 was my frustration since Thursday, Jan. 3, after hearing him talk of leaving the house to Lorena and son Albert, and wanting to live with me, he never mentioned divorce nor did he specify exactly how many years from now he planned to do this. I needed to see what his intentions towards me were and his reaction would tell me. I then began removing any temptation and He began acting differently as expected. Regardless of his promises, after consistently denying going to the bar, Starting Thursday, Jan. 4th. The very next day he began going and openly admitting it. Additionally, Octaviano is determined to defend his belief and insists that no one manipulates him. The problem he ignores is that manipulation is everywhere regardless of blood relation, and most times people have their own agenda. Having no real mother and loving him so much, upon meeting his mother Maria Luisa I accepted her as if my own. She originally acted as though she also liked me and so I listened and confided in her. Trusting her with my inner most feelings, Not thinking that perhaps it was necessary for her to act as though she liked me. She spoke nicely to me at the beginning. Making me feel welcome and said things to make me stick around and led me to believe she was in complete agreement with me in helping to keep him out of bars. Furthermore, telling me that she wanted us to be together and many other things I will not reveal in this letter. Sadly, it was not long before I saw a different view, as she changed. Around October, soon as Lorena stopped fighting Octaviano and was apparently gone from the house. A second change occurred immediately after I told Maria Luisa that although I definitely wanted too, I could not just bring him home with me. Not without being certain of whom I was bringing home. I do have a young daughter to look after and my children are not accustomed to arguments in the house. Since he never stopped going to bars and is not divorced, I needed to know if he really wanted a different kind of life. I then decided to wait and see if things improved. Having said that, I immediately learned by her own admission that Maria Luisa absolutely prefers that he would live alone. Twisted as she might now try to explain her truest intentions, there is no question on my mind that I was accepted but only as an instrument to force Lorena out of Octaviano’s life. Once Lorena stopped fighting him and was gone more often, I obviously was no longer essential or supported. Almost immediately Maria Luisa began dancing to a different tune, around October 2007, she no longer cared if he goes to bars or drinks or anything that is detrimental to his health. As she said, is better to let him. Better for whom? The support and purpose and intent soon turned to discouragement that forces me to also abandon ship as Lorena before me. Octaviano said, my mother has been taking high blood pressure pills. Well, I don’t believe in coincidences and I have seen that reaction before. It just so happens Lorena began returning to the house and staying there over several days around mid-January. The exact time when he began acting out again and his mother began complaining of not feeling well. He positively wanted to move in with me and said so repeatedly and I wanted him here, but I held back from that plan the moment he showed signs of playing with my emotions or maybe not playing but ignoring my feelings. It seems he has no need for divorce in which case he had an ethical obligation to tell me. Plus, he keeps talking about going to Mexico and if so, that turns me into someone occupying space. I’m not having any of it, but I am sure there will be other victims, it’s not going to last long before another dilemma is created. How many women have to end up hurt and driven out of his life before some people are finally happy? Another dilemma brought upon by his mother, is his constant believe that something is physically wrong with him, created by her manner of speaking. Insatiably talking of illnesses in herself or others, and of her awareness of some illness that someone has or death caused by some unforeseen terminal illness. Octaviano has accepted illness with abandonment. He absorbs this form of information over many years, and embraces all possibilities to self inflict illnesses. It travels from his head all the way down to his toes in assumptions, being certain of something medically wrong with him. He does have a liver dysfunction caused by alcohol consumption and high cholesterol, which can be brought down to normal by working on a sensible diet plan which he of course ignores. However, a more important fact is that Octaviano will never stop alcohol consumption nor find peace as long as his own brother Jesus does NOT allow it and when someone tries to help is quickly discouraged. Jesus might pay his rent, but he has a long standing track for being irresponsible and cares little towards others, including his own family (wife and daughters). His wife also carries some of the blame for she is fully aware of his acts. The man is forever at bars chasing women he cannot take care of, which makes him less than a man. A charlatan is a better word to describe him. He does not allow Octaviano to find his happy place in life which causes Octaviano’s family troubles and me included, over having to baby-sit Jesus. It is not long in between, maybe one week apart, when Octaviano begins vacillating between wanting a better life and running into another bar. Whenever we are happily enjoying peace, once again Jesus contacts Octaviano and manipulates him by simply asking, No me quieres carnal? Is a question better served for asking Jesus since it is Jesus who does not love his brother. Not really! Jesus knows Octaviano has a liver dysfunction and has been told that we are happy and making small efforts towards a different kind of life, but he consistently disturbs Octaviano and in turn destroys our relationship. Men have been an integral part of my life, having had multiple males surround me in the form of various kinds of relationships: Brothers, friends, coworkers, boyfriends and so on, around me my entire life. I have unequivocally known REAL and secured men. The kind that does not hide behind excuses afraid to tell it like it is and stand front and center before irony to become responsible for their actions. Secure men will not argue, but agree with me, especially when I say the following: Where a man lays his head to suddenly know he is home, a smile so bright escapes him that leaves his female companion no choice but to return the smile sincerely, not as a favor. Persons who have been fortunate to have had this experience, have made a female say ditto and will understand me. This is how our relationship functioned and endured controversy, but having to then watch as Octaviano travel back and forth - between relationships whenever an irate person opens their mouth, is deeply disturbing. A sense of overwhelming hopelessness consistently leaves me no choice but to possibly End our two years running relationship. Octaviano insisted on my being the woman that he so desperately needed when according to him, he was very lonely and wanting a different kind of life. Yet, I’ve been the recipient of empty promises in a game that he has perpetuated for years before meeting me, fabricated from deceptions and lies, including to his own sons. I’m writing this in February 2008. After having left me alone for 32 weekends to spend that time with his brother Jesus at bars and with other women, He has just asked me for another opportunity to be in a relationship with me and If I send this letter, it will be because he has once again broken his promises and has lied and has been involved with some woman. His estranged wife Lorena contacted me in October 2007 and again in November 2007, the last time was to ask that I bring him home with me. According to her, she could no longer stand his presence. As she worded; “Me lo estas peleando!” Which to me it means that their relationship had not ended, they were not separated as told to me, including by her during the original conversation. It seems he was spending time with me and then her, and then some other women, which is disgusting. I did not ever dream of being with a married man and I said so very clearly. As adult, I’m in complete agreement that we should do as we please.
My problem comes when in the process of doing what we want involves hurting others. No one has the right to insist on having someone in their life, only to cheat and lie to them. Moreover, there is no need to cheat and lie when one can simply stays the hell away from engaging in an obligation towards another human being. Ay que ser Buena gente. He called me his girlfriend and I was the one he wanted, and I did love him which is why I gave him 54 opportunities to get it together. But then, he had to continue acting as if he is 25 and in surge of other females at bars. I don’t want to die from AIDS! The man has serious moral and ethical issues.
Publicado el 01-02-2008 - 23:37
Quisiera que alguien me ayudara en un problema que tengo yo soy casada de 8 años estoy bien con mi esposo lo quiero mucho y le ami el problema son nestros hermanos ellos se pelean agrado de que mi cuñado a mandado a mi hermano al hospital los dos toman y se drogan yo vivo en la casa de mis suegros y mi cuñado vive pegado a la casa de mi suegro cuando mi hermano toma me viene a buscar o mas vien como a buscar pleito con mi cuñado y se empiensan a pelear todos tenemos que salir a desapartarlos yo ya no se que hacer por que yo no quiero que haiga problema entre ellos porque a los dos nos duelen a el le duele su hermano a mi el mio hemos llegado a distanciarnos por ellos y no es justo que por culpa de ellos vallamos a salir mal nosotros yo no se que estoy desesperada quisiera que me aconsejaran por que no se que hacer quiero irme a vivir a otro lado para evitar mas problemas o quisas alguna desgracia entre ellos que despues devamos lamentar pero no se que valla a decir mi marido si le digo que nos vallamos a vivir a otro lado por que nosotros vamos hacer casa aqui pegada a la de mi cuñado y si me quedo aqui mi hermano n va a dejar de molestarme y de buscar pleito ya se que hacer ayundenme por favor.
Publicado el 01-02-2008 - 23:22
quiero felicitar a la more pr el valor que tuvo de aver enfrentado esa desesperacion y el poder controlar su miedos
Publicado el 29-01-2008 - 13:37
Hola
que bueno que no te paso nada.
yo vivo en la cd. de Morelia Mich. un dia mi cuñada me pidio que la recogiera de la central camionera como a las 2 AM, iba sobre el libramiento y en un semaforo estaba un hombre parado en la banqueta un tanto sospechoso al momento que hice alto, se empezo a acercar al coche, afortunadamente mi auto tenia los critales polarizados, yo si lo podia ver, pero el a mi no, espere hasta ver si se me acercaba y si, se acerco al coche e intento abrirlo y justo en ese momento se puso el verde en el semafono y acelere, no pudo hacer nada, afortunadamente.
en la ciudad se han escuchado muchas experiencias similares, lastima que las autoridades a veces no piensan que nosotras necesitamos seguridad, cambie mi coche por uno mas modesto y le polarice los cristales, por privacia y seguridad, sin embargo en el reglamento de transito de michoacan esta prohibido, por lo que he tenido problemas con los agentes de transito por traer los cristales demic oche polarizados, y eso que no estan totalmente obscuros, sin embargo asi es y no solo en el estado de michoacan, tambien en el DF acaban de prohibirlo.
sabemos de antemano que el pais sufre de inseguridad y que un auto polarizado resulta sospechoso, sin embargo no podemos confiar en traer un coche con los cristales claros pues la inseguridad es tal que todos se dan cuenta cuando andamos solas y tratan inmediatamente de aprovecharse.
saludos a todas
Publicado el 06-01-2008 - 4:48
hola pss si que tu vistes a gayas y valor en seguir adelante y no perder el control en esos tipos de casos que te paso o que le pasan a uno , cuando uno pasa de pesecucion lo primero que se nos viene la mente es un individuo peligroso o violento y hay que tener mucha fuerza de voluntad y lo principal tener serenidad y tomarlo precavidamente y a esos tipos que se nos incinuan y asustan ya sea en el coche, o por telefono tenemos que tomarlo con calma y visualizar, analizar el problema y lo malo es que uno pierde ya la seguridad de salir ya sea fura o dentro de trabajo o casa, por que con una vez que pasa ya queda una traumada, asustada, insegura pero en estos caso hai que tomar en cuenta estos consejos que les doy , 1-no hacer caso a esos individuioo que nomas quieren jugar o asustanrno y si te revasa un carro pitale ase carro y llama la a tencion para que te ayude, 2-jamas voltees a esa persona que te hable de tu carro almenos como te hable que tengas un problema tu con tu carro,- anota sus placas o el modelo de veiculo y como es la persona, 4-llama a tu amiga o amigo y explicale de la persecucion que estas pasando y escucha los consejos de ellos, 5-nunca pieras el control seas como sea la cituacion,6-si ya te paso esto con la experiencias propia llevate o compra gas pimiento, gas lacrimojeno, o incluso spray para la boca es muy eficas para esos tipos de casos, 7- y ultimo nunca pierdan la valentia, y aunque nos de coraje estos tipos de casos nunca los provoquen por que no los conocen.
Publicado el 26-12-2007 - 14:06
HOLA!!! les envio un besote y un saludo desde la capital de tamaulipas.
Reconosco que la valentia que tenemos como mujeres es muy grande, en la actualidad el gobierno y muchas dependencias privadas se han encargado de defender nuestros derechos como mujeres, mostrandonos apoyo y sobre todo unión, pero seguimos viviendo en este mundo de hombres, donde creen que pueden tomarnos a la hora que les plasca…
En lo personal cuando era estudiante de la universidad me vi en un embrollo muy similar, sufres de la manera más horrible al ver que este tipo de sujetos se resbalan como jabon de tus manos, gracias a dios mi papá estaba en la puerta y escucho que el venia detras de mi y salio a rescatarme, pero de no ser por el no se que hubiera sucedido conmigo…
esta es una invitación para que más personas sigamos adelante con las denuncias, protección y ejecución de nuestros derechos no solo como mujeres sino como seres humanos…
una recomendación que no debe pasarse es que chikas revisen constantemente sus vehiculos, antes de abordarlos, cheken llantas y personas que esten cerca de nuestros vehiculos, procuren por lo menos ser acompañadas al mismo antes de abordar, estacionense en lugares muy concurridos y eviten sentir miedo, a veces eso es nuestro peor enemigo…
Publicado el 12-11-2007 - 16:46
Pues es indignante que halla tipos asi y nunca entendere porque hacen eso, a mi me sucedio algo similar,pero no duro unos minutos,yo trabajo en una sucursal bancaria en donde soy cajera y convivo con muchas personas.Un “cliente” depronto comenzo a seguirme,le dije a todos,hasta a la gerencia de mi sucursal,pero el tipo no dejaba de seguirme,y pasaron meses y siempre me seguia y nadie hacia nada,intente todo,la policia hablaba con el y como la vdd nunca me agredio fisicamente no le hacian nada,me caambiaron de sucursal y me encontro en la otra,asi me cambiaron varias veces, pero paso como UN AÑO Y EL MALDITO ME SEGUIA y nunca me hozo nada pero era una desesperación que nadie me pudo ayudar, hasta que me cambiaron hace un año a una sucursal mas lejana y ya no lo he vuelto a ver, pero la policia solo sirve para abusar de su fuerza y cuando uno los necesita ni hacen nada…
Publicado el 06-11-2007 - 12:22
bueno, me alegro de que no haya pasado a mayores, y de verdad admiro tu valentia, yo vivo en la cuidad de Mty, Nuevo León, aquí la delincuencia está a la hora del día, robos, asaltos, asesinatos, etc… Lamentablemente la ley muchas veces no se hace cargo de sus responsabilidades y uno no puede salir a la calle con libertad, yo, en lo personal, siempre trato de salir con alguien, nunca sola, aunque a veces no se puede…. Hace años tuve una experiencia un poco rara, iva en camino hacia mi escuela que está a 1 hora mas o menos de mi casa, en la primera ocasión vi a un tipo parado en la esquina, nunca antes lo había visto, pero al ver que yo pasaba el caminaba detrás de mi, pero ya en la segunda se me hizo raro, porque ya nisiquiera parecia que estuviera esperando a alguien, en ese momento decidi regresar a mi casa y le avisé a mi papá, inmediatamente el me acompañó, pero nos dimos cuenta de que el tipo ya no estaba en el lugar, me dió muchísmo miedo que desde ese día me acompañaba mi papá hasta mi escuela.. Gracias a dios no paso nada, mas que un susto, pero hoy en día si extremo precauciones al salir…. Mujeres no hay mas que cuidarnos nosotras mismas….. Bye